It was never an easy decision to make converting from a well paid working mum to a FOC SAHM (free of charge stay at home mum). With the relocation of my work place, I then decided to become a SAHM until my youngest toddler is ready to start attending a nursery (my plan at the moment). I do not know how long can I do this, but right now I have been doing this for 5 months.
So what are the major changes in life would be when one converting themselves to a SAHM? Below are some of my experiences:
Advantages:
1. No more sleep deprivation (you can have afternoon nap with your kids if you wish)
2. No more upside down home (as you now have more times to do cleaning and tidying) and unfinished laundry work
3. Healthy home cook meal for the whole family, which also means healthier toddlers, hubby and myself
4. More time to accompany the kids. I now spend more time going to the park, cycling, picnicking, drawing, reading, baking and walking with my two toddlers.
5. More time for reading, blogging, baking, experimenting with healthy cooking, doing yoga, concerning other family members etc.
6. Less tension although I seems like busier than working.
Disadvantages:
1. You have to spend money carefully (no more impulse purchase; which actually is a good practice)
2. Surrounding people (including my mum) would definitely suggested that it is a waste to be highly educated and then becoming a sahm- (relax and enjoy it as it is my own business)
3. The kids become clingy as they now spend most of their time with me
4. Need to steal time for movie and going out with hubby by sending them to baby sitter or wait until my mother in law visits us
5. It took me a while before I settle down and start to relax again (as I am not used to becoming a SAHM). Before this, I was battling with time preparing meals, picking up the kid from kindergarten, doing laundry work
Moral of the story:
- Only become a sahm if you like cooking, doing house work and taking care of people (young and old) and you are willing to sacrifice your time for people you love (your family) :).
- Don't expect pay back as there will most probably be none. I believe that the joy and happiness that you are enjoying when you are a sahm (if you feel so) would be the only greatest paid back.
Are you struggling to becoming a sahm too? Remember that kids are growing up so fast that before you remember anything, they will be start going to school and sticking to their friends instead of you by then. We should be cultivating good practices and moral in our child before they start absorbing the bad one.
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| 0-7 years is a golden year for a child's development. My mother had missed witnessing her kids growing up from 0-6 and I don't want to repeat her mistake and regretted for life. |
